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在云南省昆明市石林彝族自治县,有一种与彝族火把节密不可分的比赛——斗牛。斗牛承载着撒尼人“拼搏奋斗”的精神图腾,是勤劳、勇敢的象征,展示着人们的智慧与胆识,也彰显着彝族人民永不服输的品格。
在撒尼人心中,牛是土地的脊梁,斗牛场则是勇者的试炼场,上演着智慧与胆识的较量。毕世忠是来自石林县西街口镇西街口村委会大尾堵渣村的一名彝族斗牛爱好者。火把节期间,他和儿子带着“战牛”奔赴赛场,准备参加一场激动人心的斗牛比赛。
比赛结束时,毕世忠和儿子坐在篝火旁,第一次为斗牛聊到深夜。儿子终于明白父亲的用心,也感受到了赛场背后的深意——每一次抵挡、每一次冲锋,都是迎接挑战时的坚韧和刚强;每一道伤痕、每一滴汗水,都藏着比胜利更宝贵的东西,即像斗牛一样永不服输的精神,始终烙印在每个人心中。
扉页:十七岁的尾巴,十八岁的藤蔓
十七岁的尾巴,总带着一丝不甘和眷恋,仿佛还没来得及品味青春的酸甜苦辣,就匆匆迎来十八岁的钟聲。那是一声宣告,更是召唤,召唤着我们踏入一个崭新的世界,一个充满未知与可能,也布满诱惑与挑戰的世界。十八岁,我们被赋予了“成年”的标签,但心智的成熟,从来不是一场简单的仪式,而是如藤蔓般,在黑暗中摸索,在阳光下舒展,一点一点,将触角延伸向名为“成熟”的远方。
在这个年纪,身體的变化如同一场静默的革命。曾经的青涩褪去,取而thenascentstirringsofdesire,aforcebothexhilaratingandbewildering.Themirrornolongerreflectsachild,butabeingonthecuspofsomethingprofound.Thisburgeoningawarenessofone'sownphysicality,theburgeoningunderstandingofattractionandconnection,oftenleadstoafascinationwithwhatliesbeyondtheveilofsocietalnorms–therealmof"十八禁"(eighteenforbidden).It’sawhisperedsecret,ahushedcuriosity,anexplorationofboundariesthatfeelboththrillinglycloseanddangerouslyfar.
Theworldof"十八禁"isn'tjustaboutcarnaldesires,thoughthatisanundeniablepart.It’salsoabouttheburgeoningintellectualcuriosity,thedesiretounderstandthecomplexitiesofhumanrelationships,theallureofforbiddenknowledge,andthetestingofpersonallimits.It’sthethrillofimaginingscenariosthatarestilloutofreach,thecarefulobservationofadultinteractions,andthenascentattemptstodeciphertheunspokenrulesofromanceandintimacy.Inhushedtonesinschoolyards,orintheflickeringglowoflate-nightinternetsearches,thequestionsaboutwhatconstitutes"forbidden"begintosurface.Whataretheunspokenboundaries?Whatisacceptable,andwhatisnot?Andwhydoestheforbiddenoftenholdsuchanirresistiblecharm?
Thisfascinationwiththe"十八禁"oftenmanifestsintheburgeoningemotionallandscapeofaneighteen-year-old.Firstcrushesdeepen,emotionsbecomemoreintense,andthedesireforcompanionshipandunderstandingcanbeoverwhelming.Theexplorationofthesefeelings,oftenwithoutaclearroadmap,canleadtotentativeexplorationsofintimacy,bothemotionalandphysical.There’sadelicatedancebetweenwantingtoconnectdeeplyandthefearoftheunknown,betweentheurgetoexpressoneselffullyandtheingrainedsocietalmessagesaboutwhatisappropriate.Theinternet,avastandoftenunfilteredrepositoryofinformationandfantasy,becomesaplaygroundforthisexploration.Onlineforums,fanfiction,andtheubiquitoussocialmediaplatformsofferglimpsesintoworldsthatarebothalluringandpotentiallymisleading,furtherblurringthelinesofwhatisperceivedas"forbidden."
Moreover,"十八禁"canalsorepresentayearningforindependenceandself-discovery.It’saboutpushingagainsttheexpectationsofparentsandeducators,aboutcarvingoutapersonalidentitythatisdistinctfromtheoneprescribed.Thismightinvolveexperimentingwithpersonalstyle,questioningestablishedbeliefs,orengaginginactivitiesthatmightbedeemed"risky"byothers.Thethrillliesintheactofdefiance,intheassertionofone'sownagency,evenifthatagencyisstillbeingshapedanddefined.It’stheadolescentrebellion,amplifiedbytheheightenedawarenessofadulthoodandthepossibilities–bothgoodandbad–thatcomewithit.Thisexplorationisrarelyadeliberateactoftransgression;rather,it’sanaturalconsequenceofamindandbodyawakeningtonewsensationsandnewpossibilities,ayearningtounderstandthefullspectrumofhumanexperience,evenifsomeofthoseexperiencesarestillcloakedinthemystiqueoftheforbidden.It'sthenaturalinclinationtotesttheboundariesoftheknown,topeekbehindthecurtain,andtounderstandwhatliesintheshadows,allinthenameofbecomingamorecompleteandself-awareindividual.
心語:越界的边缘,成长的界碑
十八岁的我们,站在人生的十字路口,前方是光明的坦途,也有可能隐藏着荆棘。对“十八禁”的探索,与其说是一种叛逆,不如说是一种对生命完整性的渴望,一种在界限中寻找自我的本能。在這探索的过程中,我们也在不自觉地为自己的成长画下界碑。
Theallureofthe"十八禁"oftenstemsfromafundamentalhumancuriosityabouttheunknown,amplifiedbythehormonalsurgeofadolescence.It’sthenaturalprogressionfromcuriositytoexploration,adesiretounderstandthedepthsofhumanconnectionandthecomplexitiesofdesire.Formany,thisexplorationisaprivateaffair,ajourneyofself-discoveryconductedthroughart,literature,ortheburgeoningunderstandingoftheirownemotions.Yet,forothers,theexplorationmightinvolveventuringintomorepublicorexplicitrealms,seekingoutcontentorexperiencesthatpushtheboundariesofwhatisdeemedsociallyacceptable.Thiscanbeaprecariouspath,fraughtwithpotentialpitfalls.Theinternet,whileapowerfultoolforinformation,canalsobeagatewaytoexploitationandmisinformation,especiallyforthosewhoarestilldevelopingtheircriticalthinkingskills.Theglossy,oftenunrealisticportrayalsofrelationshipsandintimacyfoundinsomemediacancreatedistortedexpectations,leadingtodisappointmentorevenharm.
However,tolabelallexplorationof"十八禁"asinherentlynegativewouldbetooverlookthecrucialroleitplaysintheprocessofindividuation.Itisthroughtestingboundariesthatwelearnwhereourownlimitslie.Itisthroughgrapplingwithcomplexemotionsanddesiresthatwebegintounderstandourselvesmoredeeply.The"十八禁"canserveasacatalystforimportantconversations,bothinternalandexternal,aboutconsent,respect,andresponsibility.Itforcesustoconfrontourownvaluesandtodevelopamorenuancedunderstandingoftheworldaroundus.Thejourneythroughthisperceivedforbiddenterritoryisoftenatrial-and-errorprocess,aseriesoftentativestepsandoccasionalstumbles,allcontributingtoamorerobustsenseofself.
Furthermore,theconceptof"十八禁"isnotmonolithic;itisfluidandculturallydefined.Whatisconsideredforbiddeninonesocietymightbecommonplaceinanother.Thisrelativityhighlightstheimportanceofdevelopingone'sownethicalcompass,ratherthanblindlyadheringtoexternalrules.Ateighteen,thecriticalthinkingskillsaredeveloping,allowingforamorediscerningengagementwiththeseissues.Itbecomesatimeforquestioning,forchallengingassumptions,andforformingpersonalconvictions.Theanxietiesandconfusionsthatarisefromnavigatingthisterritorycanbeafertilegroundfordevelopingempathy,understanding,andresilience.
Ultimately,the"十八禁"foraneighteen-year-oldisnotadestination,butaphase.It’saperiodofintenselearning,ofemotionalgrowth,andofself-definition.Thetruemeasureofmaturityatthisageliesnotintheabsenceofcuriosityabouttheforbidden,butintheabilitytonavigatethatcuriositywithagrowingsenseofresponsibility,self-awareness,andrespectforoneselfandothers.It'saboutunderstandingthattheboundaries,whilesometimesfrustrating,areoftentheretoguideandprotect,andthattruefreedomcomesnotfromtransgression,butfromunderstandingandconsciouslychoosingone'spath.Theechoesofthe"禁忌"(forbidden)willfade,replacedbytheconfidentstrideofadulthood,informedbythelessonslearnedinthevibrant,sometimeschaotic,andalwaysformativelandscapeofeighteen.
父亲望着儿子被火光照亮的眼睛,仿佛看见了年轻时的自己。他们约定,明年火把节再战。而真正的比赛,早已超越赛场——像斗牛一样,英勇无畏;像烈焰一般,生生不息。
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